The Power of Words and Perspective

The Power of Words and Perspective

Words have power, and words have presence; we need to use them wisely and look at every perspective.

“Words from a wise man’s mouth are gracious, but a fool is consumed by his own lips.”Ecclesiastes 10:12

“Words aptly spoken are like apples of gold in settings of silver.” Proverbs 25:11

There is much power in words. It’s important that we watch our speech and make sure that the words we speak are kind and effective, as we look at the other person’s perspective. That is to say, that we need to get our point across without making someone feel attacked.

So here we go…

I apologize to my husband ahead of time, because he may not like that I’m using this example. Sorry, Honey.

This morning when we had gotten up, I discovered that we had lost a T.V. set due to a storm that came rolling through about 3 a.m. (which I slept through). This T.V. set was my husband’s first wall-mounted flat screen, which he loved, and has only had about 1- 1/2 years. He was devastated.

The first thing he said was, “This is a disaster!”

“Disaster?” I questioned. “This isn’t a disaster. No one is dead, and no one is hurt. This is an incident.”

“Brenda, would you please let me say things the way I want to say them.”

I wasn’t trying to do that, I was trying to lesson the angst, but I just made the situation worse. He didn’t seem to like my “perspective.”

Well, needless to say, we were both a little tiffed with each other because of our own perspectives.

Ok. My perspective: There were power in these wordsanger and frustration on my husband’s part. Disbelief on mine.

How could he get so upset about a T.V set when people are dying all over the world!

I saw it as an incident, and he saw it as a disaster.

Then during a chat session with my friend, Cathy, I happened to (casually) mention this spat…which I should not have done…but what can I say, I did (another thing I have to work on).

She helped me see that this wasn’t just a T.V. set to my husband. It was something he had worked hard for to get (which he had), and it was his form of relaxation when he came home from work (which it is). She told me that to her husband it would have probably been a disaster, also.

The point of this story- We need to look at every side, every perspective, every situation, and watch the words that come spilling out of our mouths because there are power in our words.

You want to draw others to you, and not push them away. Just one wrong quip, that you thought was funny, may be very disconcerting to someone else.

Does that mean walk on eggshells?

Not at all. Be yourself. Just do it kindly.   

We all have days when we wish we could have taken back what we said. Communication is crucial in life and in business. Learn to communicate well.

So this is my view on The Power of Words and Perspective.

 

B Wise, B Skilled, B Jenuine

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19 thoughts on “The Power of Words and Perspective”

  1. great Content BG !
    yes, I’ve noticed how little time interdependent human beings spend really listening and trying to truly understand another person’s perspective. I have grown to appreciate the fact that everyone sees things through their own lens and, therefore, has a different perspective. At the same time, this appreciation leads to frustration when I see others who, for whatever reason, seem not to appreciate the different perspectives.

    1. So true, Easther. We tend to get caught up in our own ways of thinking that we have a hard time seeing another’s view. We can all improve in this area. Thanks for commenting!

  2. Thanx BG!
    I really enjoyed this post. It sounds very familiar to my house sometimes. I agree with what you said about having perspective. Not all people think in the same way. So, thinking about children dying in Africa is a Disaster to people like us (as compared to a TV set). But, quite often when we say something to try and help others feel better, we can also mistakenly belittle the way they feel about a certain incident. Sometimes it’s best to shower the situation with compassion. Thanx for sharing this story, it really made me think about how I communicate.

    1. Thank you, Penny! We do need to look at all of it, and sometimes when we’re too close, we don’t. Thanks for your comment!

  3. Hey BG.
    As a communication trainer I know exactly the power of words and ton and its impact on the receiver. You have put up some very important points there which I will definitely keep in mind even when I am training people! Thanks for sharing

  4. Hi Brenda!

    Thanks for sharing the story!
    Most of us are often so wrapped up in our own way of thinking, and our own way of doing things, that we are simply unable to see things from the other person’s perspective.
    For the record, I’m with you….it wasn’t a disaster! However I think in the heat of the moment I would probably have reacted the way your husband did! And I don’t even watch TV! lol
    Lee

  5. BG,
    I am glad you and your husband are okay. The TV can be replaced and you are so right we have to be careful how we use our words, they are SO powerful!

    Thanks for sharing such an awesome job!

    Wendy

    1. Thanks so much, Wendy! I agree, we have to watch our words and sometimes when it’s someone close to us, we tend not to do as well.

  6. Great post! Words are EXTREMELY powerful which is why they must be chosen wisely. Sometimes, it’s better to say nothing at all!! lol Thank you for sharing your story!

  7. Hi Bg,

    This is my fav post for the day!! Short and sweet but powerful…whatever we speak sets the path our lives go in so we have to watch what we say! What’s in your heart will eventually come out of your mouth so I recommend renewing our minds with the Word of God!

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