The Power of Words and Perspective
Words have power, and words have presence; we need to use them wisely and look at every perspective.
“Words from a wise man’s mouth are gracious, but a fool is consumed by his own lips.” – Ecclesiastes 10:12
“Words aptly spoken are like apples of gold in settings of silver.” – Proverbs 25:11
There is much power in words. It’s important that we watch our speech and make sure that the words we speak are kind and effective, as we look at the other person’s perspective. That is to say, that we need to get our point across without making someone feel attacked.
So here we go…
I apologize to my husband ahead of time, because he may not like that I’m using this example. Sorry, Honey.
This morning when we had gotten up, I discovered that we had lost a T.V. set due to a storm that came rolling through about 3 a.m. (which I slept through). This T.V. set was my husband’s first wall-mounted flat screen, which he loved, and has only had about 1- 1/2 years. He was devastated.
The first thing he said was, “This is a disaster!”
“Disaster?” I questioned. “This isn’t a disaster. No one is dead, and no one is hurt. This is an incident.”
“Brenda, would you please let me say things the way I want to say them.”
I wasn’t trying to do that, I was trying to lesson the angst, but I just made the situation worse. He didn’t seem to like my “perspective.”
Well, needless to say, we were both a little tiffed with each other because of our own perspectives.
Ok. My perspective: There were power in these words…anger and frustration on my husband’s part. Disbelief on mine.
How could he get so upset about a T.V set when people are dying all over the world!
I saw it as an incident, and he saw it as a disaster.
Then during a chat session with my friend, Cathy, I happened to (casually) mention this spat…which I should not have done…but what can I say, I did (another thing I have to work on).
She helped me see that this wasn’t just a T.V. set to my husband. It was something he had worked hard for to get (which he had), and it was his form of relaxation when he came home from work (which it is). She told me that to her husband it would have probably been a disaster, also.
The point of this story- We need to look at every side, every perspective, every situation, and watch the words that come spilling out of our mouths because there are power in our words.
You want to draw others to you, and not push them away. Just one wrong quip, that you thought was funny, may be very disconcerting to someone else.
Does that mean walk on eggshells?
We all have days when we wish we could have taken back what we said. Communication is crucial in life and in business. Learn to communicate well.
So this is my view on The Power of Words and Perspective.